2) How were your parents impacted by your vocation?
With my vocation of being called to ministry, my parents were a little bit reluctant at first; they were afraid I wouldn't make enough money, and really wanted me to get a job in my field: graphic design, but they eventually came around to the idea, especially after seeing how much I love it!
With my primary vocation (other than my occupation, but whether I am called to marriage, religious life, single life, etc.), I am still figuring out exactly where God is calling me, but so far through prayer and discernment and the help of a spiritual director, I feel called to marriage, which my parents are pleased about.
3) What is a good hint to vocation/signs to look for other than paying attention? How do you know what vocation is speaking to you? How do you know that you have been called?
Spiritual direction was HUGE for me in figuring out what God wanted me to do. A spiritual director is someone you meet with regularly to discuss your prayer life. That person helps you hear what God is saying to you, through listening to you and directing you in one way or another.
Prayer has also been very helpful, and for me, intentional, quiet prayer, especially prayer in Eucharistic Adoration. Talking to friends and family has also been helpful, as they know my gifts and were able to give me good ideas of where to look to find where God was calling me.
4) Do you get paid a lot? Not to be rude…
As Sofia said, you do not get as much as youth minister as you do perhaps in other fields of work. However, even though my "bank account" may not be as full as others, my "heart" is always QUITE full due to this job. I am so filled up through working in ministry and that joy sustains me better than a higher paying job ever could.
On a more practical note, youth ministers do just fine to live happily and get by... as long as you are budgeting appropriately, and not spending all your money on Ben & Jerry's, you'll do just fine! :)
5) What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Speaking of Ben & Jerry's... haha- well, unfortunately, dairy and I no longer get-along, HOWEVER, I have just discovered some BOMB vegan ice cream. Full Tilt Creamery makes several varieties, but so far, depending on my mood, my favorites are: Toasted Coconut, or Mexican Chocolate.
6) Just wondering, what is the church’s view on marrying someone with a different religion? It is allowed?
It is totally allowed, but in the Catholic Church, marriage is the only Sacrament where both parties administer the Sacrament to each other. If one of the parties is not Catholic, the marriage is blessed, but is not a Sacrament. The other tricky part is at the actual wedding, the ceremony can only be within a Mass if both parties are Catholic-- if one party is not Catholic, then there can only be the Liturgy of the Word, and the ceremony, with no Liturgy of the Eucharist.
For myself, I struggle with this because I want to be able to receive the Eucharist at my wedding, so I am secretly hoping that if God does call me to marriage, my future husband is Catholic :)
8) How many siblings do you have?
I have one younger brother-- his name is Dominic (But I call him Nic) and we are two and a half years apart!
9) How do you deal with the fears that come with commitment?
Prayer and asking for prayer from others. One of my most favorite bible verses is: Matthew 6:25-34, which in essence tells us that God will take care of all our needs, and we must not worry, but should just seek him and the Kingdom with all our hearts.
Prayer from others is also so very helpful-- one of my best friends is my accountability buddy and whenever we struggle, we text each other and ask for prayer.
10) How can I, if at all, make my own vocation? Can our vocation change?
I am not entirely sure what you are asking, but my guess would be you are wondering if you can make your vocation instead of God making your vocation. My answer to that question would be that God gave us the gift of free-will, and because of this, we can choose any path in life, any lifestyle, etc., that we would like. However, if you pray and ask God what He wants us to do, and follow His will, His vocation for your life, I promise you: you will be happier than you could ever imagine; happier than you would ever be in denying God and choosing your own path for your life.
12) Did you ever doubt that your vocation wasn’t actually right for you?
With my vocation to ministry, I have doubts all the time. How I deal with these doubts is that I pray and think about why those doubts exist. Usually my answer comes back to my own insecurities; me feeling inadequate in my job in ministry. It never comes down to me not enjoying this job, because I love it. The doubt and insecurity I feel I know is not of God, but is the devil trying to bring me down. Once I come to this realization, I pray that God will give me the strength to carry on, and will give me confidence to do His will.
14) How come you can’t get married if you’re a nun or a priest?
The life of a nun and/or a priest is one where they have totally dedicated their life to God and to serving His people. If they were to be married, their vocation would be to serve their spouse, and they would not have the time to serve God and His people because they would need to instead be serving their spouse. The spouse of a nun is Christ, and the spouse of a priest is the Church. This is beautifully represented in the early Church as Jesus gave his Mother to St. John, for St. John to serve and take care of her, as Jesus was then dying for his bride, the Church.
15) What sacrifices did you have to make for your vocation?
With my vocation to ministry, I had to sacrifice working in my field of study, graphic design, which might have been a higher paying job. I also have to sacrifice/ be flexible in the giving of my time, as the life of a youth minister requires working many evenings and weekends. However, through these sacrifices, I have been rewarded ten-fold as I love my job and always feel so fulfilled when working with teens, parents, and seeing how the Holy Spirit is working throughout it all!
16) What was the most helpful thing you heard/ did to grow your own Catholic faith?
Dedicating time to prayer. Hands down. When I spend quality time with Christ daily, I am so filled up the rest of the day. I don't always want to take that time, and while I'm in prayer, I don't always feel present or "into it", but I can definitely tell the difference in my mood, my decisions, and my over-all day on days when I pray verses days when I don't pray.
Also, having faith-filled conversations with friends and hearing their own faith journeys, always fills me up as well.
17) What is the point of life?
To know and love Christ and His people, and to follow His will for your life, because following His path for you WILL make you the happiest you can be!